Dirty Talk

How To Talk Dirty For Beginners ? This question was often asked by most of married women. When you are not used to talk dirty, you will feel awkward when trying to do it for the first time. You will feel like you are becoming a different person, and as a result, you might not feel confident in what you are doing. You might end up making a fool of yourself if you don’t know what you are doing. When talking dirty, it is important for you to create a good impression about yourself, so that your partner will listen to what you are saying and respond to it.

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If you can get past the first barriers, it will be easier and easier for you to do it the second time. It’s okay to make mistakes at first, but you have to learn from your mistakes fast and fix it as soon as possible. Otherwise, it will be very difficult for you to master the art of dirty talking with your partner. Improvements are important to make you become better than your last performance, and the more you are successful with your dirty talk, the more you will succeed in bed. That’s for sure.

 

Here are the 7 best tips for beginners on how to talk dirty for the first time:

 

  1. Get Rid Of The Stereotypes

 

This is the first step that you need to take before you talk dirty to your partner. It’s actually the stereotype that makes people afraid to do this. Many people associate talking dirty with being a bad person that only cares about their lust. They are being labeled as a slut, bitch, dirty man, and so on. If you still think that talking dirty will have a bad effect on your good reputation, then you have to eliminate this stereotype from your mind. No, talking dirty will not give you any bad effect if you simply do it at an appropriate time.

 

Talking about things related to sex is actually more enjoyable that talking about mundane things with your partner. It can help you to increase your partner’s libido, and it makes you want to follow it with some real actions. It is a good way to create the right mood before you make love with your partner, which can give a significant impact on the sexual satisfaction that your partner will get from you. Sex is actually not just about sex. It involves caressing not only your partner’s body, but their mind as well. With dirty talk, your partner will have a richer sexual experience with you, and the more you get creative with your dirty talk, the more your sexual activities will become exciting for both you and your partner.

 

To get rid of the stereotypes surrounding dirty talk, here are the things you should do:

 

  • Think of dirty talk as something good instead of something bad, since it helps you get closer to your partner.
  • Understand that dirty talk will not damage your reputation in any way, provided that you are doing it at an appropriate time.
  • Know that dirty talk can help to make your sexual experience richer and more enjoyable for you and your partner.
  • Understand that dirty talk can make you look sexier and more charming for your partner, and it is more exciting than talking about mundane things.
  • Use dirty talk to create the mood for sex and be creative about it.

 

  1. Make Mistakes And Improve On Your Performance

 

You can’t expect yourself to be a master in dirty talk in just your first attempt. People make mistakes on everything, so you bound to make mistakes when you try to talk dirty for the first time too. Perhaps, you will make your partner upset with it and consider you strange. That’s a normal reaction, since you haven’t done it before. But, if you keep on trying, you will become better at starting a dirty conversation with your partner, or even with anyone that you just meet for the first time. It’s a great tool for seduction, and if you know how to use it properly, you can seduce almost anyone with it.

 

Remember that people also have some kind of barriers when it comes to dirty conversations. Sometimes, if you go too far in your dirty talk, you will end up making them angry or disappointed with your act. So, you should always observe these boundaries and ensure that you don’t cross it without knowing. These mistakes are common when you start your dirty talk for the first time, and the point is not to quit immediately after you make a mistake. Instead, you have to acknowledge your mistake and keep improving your performance. Don’t make the same mistake twice.

 

Find what works and what doesn’t work for your partner. Sometimes, your partner will love certain topics, and dislike others. Your partner may like certain dirty talk styles that you have, and dislike the others. So, when you spot that you are making a mistake, acknowledge it and remember about it. Then, never make the same mistake again and keep finding what works best to keep the dirty talk going.

 

Here are some tips you should do to improve your dirty talk performance:

 

  • Just come with your dirty talk ideas freely without being afraid of making mistakes.
  • When you make a mistake in your dirty talk, simply acknowledge your mistakes and never make the same mistake twice.
  • Keep improving your way to start and maintain a dirty conversation with your partner by fixing your mistakes along the way.
  • Find what works and what doesn’t work for your partner and focus only on giving the dirty talk style that they like.
  • Once you made a mistake, don’t be afraid to try another dirty talk trick on your partner or someone else.

 

Related article:  7 Tips You Shouldn’t Miss-Talk Dirty Without Embarrassment 

 

  1. Be The Leader In The Dirty Conversation

 

Sometimes, achieving a success in your dirty talk conversation is all about having the courage to lead the conversation. If you cannot lead the conversation, then the dirty talk cannot go anywhere. You cannot expect your partner to lead the dirty conversation, especially if it feels awkward for them to do so. Thus, what you need to do is keep going in your conversation and make your partner follow your game. It will be more exciting for your partner to follow you instead of thinking about what they need to say next.

 

Dirty conversation, like any conversation, is all about flow. If you can maintain the flow of the conversation, then you can successfully impress your partner and make the conversation satisfying for both of you. But, when you block the flow, stopping in the middle of the conversation without knowing what to say next, then your partner will feel confused about it. Many people are afraid to move forward in their dirty conversation, so this is what you need to handle in your conversation.

 

The first thing that you need to do is to collect your courage to move forward in the conversation. Once the conversation becomes more and more interesting, your partner will expect you to lead them in the conversation. In fact, they will be curious to hear about what kind of dirty talk that you will say to them. So, it is the time for you to fill the holes in the mind by giving up surprises after surprises in your dirty talk. When you lead, your partner will follow.

 

Here are some tips to be the leader in your dirty conversation:

 

  • Don’t be afraid to come up with new ideas in your dirty talk, since your partner will anticipate it.
  • Don’t be hesitant to move forward in your dirty conversation.
  • Your job is to lead the conversation. So, don’t expect your partner to do that.
  • Don’t let silence fills the gap of your dirty conversation with your partner. It is better for you to continue with your dirty talk despite your hesitation.
  • You can lead the conversation further by touching your partner and whispering to them your dirty words. This can help to heat up the conversation and make your partner more interested in it.
  • Give your partner some surprises in your dirty talk, and don’t talk about the same thing over and over again.

 

  1. Whisper And Straight Talk

 

Now, there is a really good trick to boost the effectiveness of your dirty talk. It’s called whispering. Instead of talking about dirty things out loud with your partner, you lower your voice, and whisper it to your partner instead. What this will do is that it will immediately create romantic feelings around you, and of course, your partner will be able to feel your sexiness as well. Whispering to your partner, with your sexy voice, right into their ear, is the sweetest and most romantic thing that you can do with your dirty talk. It turns your partner on, and of course, make them want to touch you more.

 

Another thing that you need to know is straight talk. When you talk dirty with your partner, make sure that you don’t try to conceal your words or the meaning of your words from them. You need to simply talk straight to your partner without any hesitation. In fact, if you hesitate, then it will ruin your dirty conversation and kill the mood immediately. Don’t be afraid to tell your partner about sexual things, since you are just talking with them in private. Don’t be afraid to make sure that your partner understands what you mean in your dirty talk.

 

This is something that you have to remember all the time. Maintaining a good dirty talk conversation is not difficult if you can use these simple tricks. When you’ve talked to your partner out loud too much, it’s time for you to whisper to them. When you’ve talked about sexual things in a difficult-to-understand way, it’s time for you to talk about it straight out. It means that you don’t need to worry to simply say things as it is.

Whisper And Straight Talk

Here are some tips about whisper and straight talk in your dirty conversation:

 

  • Alternate between talking out loud and whispering to your partner, since it will give good variations in your dirty talk.
  • Don’t make your partner feel confused about what you are talking about. So, make sure that you are having a straight talk with your partner.
  • While whispering to your partner, be sure to show your charm and sexiness in your voice, since it will help to build the romantic mood in the conversation.
  • Whispering and touching your partner at the same time can turn them on, and it will be good for you to move forward to the next step, which is to seduce your partner.

 

  1. Follow It With Some Actions

 

Just talking about things related to sex is not interesting if you keep doing that without following it with some real actions. What does it mean? It means that talking about sex is good, but in the long run, it should be used as the first step in your seduction game. Let your dirty talk be the first step for you to have real sex with your partner. Talking dirty with your partner all the time can indeed create a romantic feeling between you and your partner, but that feeling can easily disappear if you don’t know when to take the next step.

 

So, what you need to do is to follow your dirty talk with some actions, which is to seduce your partner. Always accompany your dirty talk with touching and caressing your partner, making sure that they are turned on in what you are doing. The dirty conversation that you are doing with your partner should get you closer to your partner, and become intimate with them. Your partner should not only feel your words in their heart, but they need to also feel your touch in their skin. They should also feel your kisses and love.

 

Talking dirty should be your way to get your partner’s heart and make them fall in love with you. You have to make them feel crazy about you, and want to be with you all day. You should be able to tease your partner with your dirty talk, as well as increase their libido at the same time with your touches and kisses. That’s why you shouldn’t rely on your dirty talk alone, but you should also follow your dirty conversation with some real actions.

 

Here are some tips to follow your dirty talk with some actions:

 

  • Impress your partner with your dirty talk, and while you are doing that, follow it with some real actions, primarily touching and kissing your partner.
  • Don’t be afraid to create a physical contact with your partner.
  • Once the dirty talk escalates into seduction, your partner will expect you to come to them, make the kisses, and have real sex with you.
  • Always follow your dirty conversation with physical actions, but keep on observing your partner’s reactions while doing that.
  • Only go with your next move if you receive positive signals from your partner.

 

  1. Do It As Often As Possible

 

If you are a beginner in dirty talk, it means that you still have plenty of things to learn. Mastering the art of dirty talking is not something that you can do in a day or a few weeks. You need to practice this constantly if you want to master the art of dirty talking. Thus, it is very important for you to do it as often as possible. Don’t wait to do it later on your partner’s birthday. Don’t wait until Valentine’s Day just to start talking dirty with your partner. You have to set yourself to make mistakes a lot in your dirty talk, and ensure that you learn from your own mistakes.

 

So, if you want to become proficient in dirty talk, make sure to do it as often as possible with your partner. It is better to do it every day, or even every time you meet your partner. Or, even when your partner is away from you, you can call them and start the dirty conversation via phone or chat. You need to be willing to make the effort to start the conversation with your partner.

 

The problem with many people is that they are afraid to make dirty talk a part of their romantic life with their partner. This is why their romantic life becomes dull and boring, and their partner will then choose to cheat with other people. It’s simply because they cannot get the satisfaction from their partner, and because their partner is never willing to take the step to keep their romantic feeling strong. So, it’s important for you to make the dirty talk your second nature. You need to do it often, and you have to do it for the good of your relationship.

 

Here are some tips to do dirty talk as often as possible:

 

  • Don’t be afraid to start the dirty conversation anytime.
  • Even when your partner is away, you can still call them and start the dirty conversation via the phone or chat messages.
  • The more you do the dirty talk, the more you will recognize what works and what doesn’t work.
  • It is good to make mistakes in your dirty conversation, and then learn from your own mistakes to improve the way you do it later.
  • Dirty talking can help you to keep the romantic feeling going strong between you and your partner, so it will do no harm if you do it as often as possible with your partner.

 

  1. Be Playful With Your Partner

 

This is the last tip for the beginners to start their dirty conversation for the first time. You have to be playful with your partner, not taking things too seriously while you do that. In dirty conversation, it is important to keep your partner feels the fun in the talk itself. If you are too serious in your talk, then your partner will feel afraid of you. Thus, when your partner feels that you are a creepy person, then it is not possible for you to take the next step.

 

So, before you do all the dirty talk, be sure to relax your mind and not let it become too much stressed before you actually do it. It is important to think that your dirty conversation is just a talk with your partner that you do for fun. Whether your partner will enjoy it or not, it will be up to your partner later. But, what you need to do is to let the dirty talk flow smoothly in your conversation. Don’t think too much about whether your partner will like what you say or not. Just say it.

 

Dirty talking is all about intuition. You simply say what is on your mind, and observe the reactions of your partner later. You simply express what is on your head and let your partner know about your dirty mind. You don’t need to worry about what your partner thinks about you if you talk about dirty things with them. We are all animals inside, so we have our fair shares of dirty things in our mind. So, it’s good to be playful with your partner in your dirty conversation.

 

Here are some tips to be playful with your partner in your dirty talk:

 

  • Relax your mind before starting your dirty conversation. You don’t want to be too stressful when you talk dirty with your partner.
  • Don’t think about what your partner will think of you when you say about dirty things with them.
  • Use jokes deliberately and freely to spice up your dirty talk and make it more interesting.
  • Say what’s on your head without hesitation to keep the smooth flow of your dirty conversation.
  • Always add the fun factor in your dirty talk, treating your dirty conversation just as a playful conversation with your partner.

Are You Tired Of...

  • Not knowing any dirty talk phrases?
  • A mechanical and boring sex life?
  • Your man's predictability ruining the mood... and your evening?
  • Hearing the same old monotonous grunts during your love session?
  • Not being able to orgasm like you used to?
  • Letting your man settle for a mediocre sex life?

Why He NEEDS You To Learn How To Talk Dirty...

Dirty talk phrases directly stroke the male ego:

Talking dirty riles up the positive sides of that ego, in which he identifies with his masculine role as a man, and can highly energize him through triggering his internal “lust mechanisms” to have him swooning over you every chance he can get.

Dirty Talk evoke a man’s fantasy:

Talking dirty is your tool to grasp a man’s fantasy in a way that pulls back all of his sexual attention on you, and you alone. You can be his muse and essentially guide him into unparalleled, self generated bliss, if you know what “secret psychology” is going on behind the scenes.

Dirty talk lines create an unspoken bond:

A lot of women are intimidated by the idea of talking dirty because she doesn’t know what to say, but the fact of the matter is by taking that risk (and trusting him with her true sexual self-expression) she is communicating that she is willing to open to him completely. This delicate gesture triggers gratitude and reciprocity in him to begin to open up more himself.

The language of desire will explain all you need to know to captivate your man and make him do whatever you want...

... And I really mean "WHATEVER YOU WANT"!

Dirty Talk is quite possibly the healthiest thing you can do for any relationship. Studies have shown that Talking Dirty helps to improve love making, increases intimacy, drives desire and can make you an all around more confident person.

If you want all these things in your life then keep reading. The Language of Desire by Felicity Keith teaches you how to dirty talk, improve love making, gain confidence and drive your man crazy with desire.

Did you know that all men crave a woman who can talk dirty to them? Whether he tells you so or not he will be excited to hear you talk dirty in the right way. I say "the right way" because talking dirty isn't just about throwing around some four letter words and seeing what happens. Dirty talk, done wrong is not sexy at all and can most often be a turn off. With The Ultimate Guide To Talking Dirty I'll tell you exactly how to do it the right way!!!

Here is your first tip…..

Talking Dirty Tip #1

First of all, dirty talk doesn't have to be dirty. You can show your pleasure - and rev up his engine to redline - with just sounds.

When you moan in pleasure, it tells him that he's doing something right. When you groan as he enters you, you're telling him how much you like the way he feels inside of you. The sounds you make, whether it be groaning or screaming or simply heavy breathing, will tell him volumes about how you feel and what you want him to do.

Why Talk Dirty...

You might want to learn how to talk dirty because your man has expressed an interest in it or maybe you want to spice up your sex life some or maybe you are just curious as to how to talk dirty.

Whatever the reason may be it seem that from the time we're children we are taught that dirty words are bad. Saying naughty and dirty things is not something good girls and boys do...or do they? Getting over this taboo that has been driven into us since childhood is both good for our sex lives and exciting. It's like making love again for the first time and my guide tells you exactly how to do it!

Why Do Men Love Dirty Talk?

Men love dirty talk because it adds spice and intimacy into their romance. Most men don't want a woman who is timid and shy in the bed. Talking dirty either before or during sex has nothing but positive effects. Dirty talk before sex gets your man excited and builds anticipation for things to come. When you learn how to talk dirty in bed it will make your man feel like he is fulfilling your needs and in return it will get him revved up and extend the love making process.

You'll Need All The Help You Can Get...

If you truly want to learn how to talk dirty then you need some help. You definitely do not want to rush into it and say the wrong thing at the wrong time. This is the number one mistake that women make who want to learn how to talk dirty. Talking dirty isn't about just blurting out nasty phrases during sex. It is all about saying the right thing at the right time.

With the help of my talking dirty guide you will learn what to say, when to say it, where to say it and how to say it. Knowing this information before the first dirty thought even rolls off your lips is a major bonus. If you say the wrong thing your man might think you are trying to hard, you could get embarrassed or even worse yet, lose the confidence you have built up.

Talking Dirty Tip #2

Dirty talk doesn't always have to be face to face. Some of the most naughtiest things can be said on the phone, via email or in a hand written letter. Letters are great for this and can be placed in just the right spots. You can find more about different ways to drive your man crazy .

Did you know that talking dirty on the phone is a big business? Let's face it; people are paying good money for it all the time. Out of all of the places that there are to talk dirty to your man, doing it on the phone has got to be one of the easiest. It's always easier to do something when there is no face to face contact. Release any inhibitions that you may be facing and get down to business with your man. Tell him that you are touching yourself, which is sure to get his motor going.

Give him a few moans and a couple of whispers and remember that delivery is everything. The more that he feeds into it, the more that you will feel comfortable with it and allow yourself to continue on in a natural manner. When it comes to referring to breasts and penises, use the words that you find most comfortable to you. There are a lot to choose from that's for sure!

How To Captivate Your Man & Make Him Love You

As you learn to talk dirty, it opens up a whole new world of possibility. You will probably learn things about your partner that you never imagined, and it's a sure bet he's going to learn quite a bit about you! Your willingness to talk dirty to him shows him how much you want him, and that leads to enhanced intimacy between the two of you. The closer you feel to your partner, the better your sex life will be.

...You don't have to be a slut to learn dirty talk phrases...

GIRLS: Discover the REAL Secrets of Dirty Talk Phrases Using Your Tongue (Hint - It's NOT What You Think...)

Once you get things going with your man, slipping in a bit of dirty talk will do wonders for your sex life. You may find that it becomes a regular part of your sex play soon .

 

You have no idea how to talk dirty to your boyfriend, don’t you? Don’t worry, everything can be learned, and so can dirty talk. If you were raised in a family with strong traditional values, using dirty talk can be difficult, because it takes you out of your comfort zone. When it comes to using dirty talk in bed, you feel embarrassed, awkward, or you are totally blocked. You are afraid you might use the wrong words, that you will be laughed at, or that you will ruin the sexy atmosphere. And that probably makes you so uncomfortable using dirty talk.

The first rule of dirty talk

Men like hearing dirty talk. This is the first thing you should know. So, there is no need to be concerned that your boyfriend will dislike what you are saying to him… except for when you are not authentic. Dirty talk beginners might seem unnatural when using words they have never said in their entire life. But everything comes with practice.

If you decide to surprise your boyfriend by using dirty words in bed, but you are afraid you will make embarrassing mistakes, follow the golden rule: find out what your boyfriend likes to hear. You can ask him directly, or you can guess from his reactions. If you notice some words trigger better reactions than others, use those and become creative with them. So, if you want to learn how to talk dirty to your boyfriend, you have to learn what he likes and doesn’t like to hear.

The boundaries of dirty talk

What is dirty talk, after all? How dirty should it be? Dirty talk doesn’t necessarily have to be extremely dirty. You can choose the words that you are most comfortable with. Some guys like really dirty words, swears, or expressions that can make you blush instantly. But there are others who prefer a more soft language when it comes to dirty talk. That is why you should find out what the preferences of your man are.

If you feel uncomfortable using really dirty words, you can start by using the words and expressions you already are accustomed with and don’t have a problem using. It will give you the opportunity to experience, find out what pleases your boyfriend best, and it will be a good exercise that will prepare you to get to the next level.

After all, dirty talk should be a little dirtier than usual sex talk. After you get used to saying dirty words in bed, you can try upgrading your language. In time, using really dirty talk will become natural and spontaneous.

Of course, dirty talk has its boundaries, but only you and your boyfriend are the ones to set them. If you don’t like some words, or you don’t like to be called different names, you can tell that to your boyfriend. The purpose of dirty talk is to make sex even more pleasurable, not to disrespect each other, or start a fight.

Nonverbal communication is the key

Dirty talk doesn’t mean only saying the right words. It means saying them in a certain moment and in a certain way. You have to feel when the right moment has come and use all your body to communicate to your boyfriend. If you don’t mean what you are saying, your nonverbal communication will give you away. Use your hands, your lips, and your eyes to express everything you feel, and make your boyfriend fantasize about it.

Dirty talk also means using the inflexions of your voice to communicate how much you like what your boyfriend is doing to you. It could seem difficult at the beginning, but once you get comfortable with this, you will be amazed at the results.

Be creative!

It is important not to repeat yourself and to surprise your partner every time you make love. If you need some help finding new dirty talk ideas to experiment in the bedroom, you can check out Felicity Keith's Language Of Desire. It has hundreds of examples that will stimulate your imagination. To learn how to talk dirty to your boyfriend and rediscover the passion in your sex life.

You cannot always be near the person your love, but if you can come up with some dirty text messages to send to your boyfriend, you will make him want you no matter how far apart you two are. Once he reads your text, he will start fantasizing immediately about you and the things he would like to do to you. Sending dirty texts can be an excellent way of maintaining the passion in your relationship even when you are apart. You just have to know how to choose your words, so that your text will trigger your man’s desire.

Today, many couples are going through periods of separation. Your boyfriend might have to go to another city on a business trip, might be in the army or have other job that implies traveling a lot. When you cannot be together with him, it’s difficult to keep the passion alive. One way of sharing intimate moments with the person you love even when he is far away is creating dirty texts to send to your boyfriend.

Unfortunately, not all of us are experts in dirty talk. With text messages, it’s extremely difficult to know the reaction they cause. Because you are not face to face, you cannot know if your boyfriend likes it or not, or if it makes him want you or laugh at you. Even more experienced dirty talkers have difficulties when it comes to writing dirty texts, because so many of the usual things are missing: the touches, the gaze, the inflexions in the voice, the moaning, and all the body language. You cannot immediately find out the effect your texts had on your partner, and this is one of the most significant reasons that make creating dirty texts difficult.

What makes a good dirty text and what makes a lousy one? How can you come up with different dirty texts to send to your boyfriend every time? Creating smart dirty texts needs practice, but there are a few tips you could follow to make sure your message will blow your boyfriend’s mind.

Tips on writing dirty text messages to send to your boyfriend

  1. Use the words he wants to hear

Before writing a message, you should make sure you use the words your boyfriend likes to hear. Different people have different preferences and fantasies, so you shouldn’t use some words just because your ex boyfriend loved them. Do some research and find out what your boyfriend likes and what he doesn’t, and then use your imagination to create the most exciting texts.

  1. Be descriptive

Writing texts is restrictive, because you cannot communicate with your boyfriend like you usually do. That is why you have to make your texts as explicit as possible. You have to say exactly what you want to do to your boyfriend, and how, or what you want him to do to you. When you are creating dirty texts to send to your boyfriend, imagine you are with him. Describe everything: the sensations, the taste and the smells. This way, your boyfriend will have no problem picturing everything, and fantasizing about it. The more you get into details, the more you trigger your partner’s desire.

  1. Be creative

Receiving dirty texts can be terribly exciting. However, when the texts keep repeating themselves, there is a great chance the initial excitement will drop. Don’t irritate your boyfriend with the same texts, even if you assume he likes them. Try something different every time and surprise him.

Where to find examples of dirty texts to send to your boyfriend

It’s not easy to write different dirty texts every time. There are times when you just can’t find the right words or some new ideas. Even the most creative persons experience such moments. If you want to diversify your dirty language and find some new examples of dirty texts, check out The Language of Desire by Felicity Keith. It has a lot of ideas you can use when having phone sex or writing dirty messages to you boyfriend.