Why do you want to get your ex back? Is this an obsession ? a mantra repeated in your head crying “get ex back, get ex back, get ex back” never stopping?
The feeling of a lost love is one of the toughest feeling in the human experience. If you are feeling those harsh feelings while reading this you should know my heart goes for you.
Does everywhere you go reminds you of a great moment that you have passed with your ex? Does every song you hear suddenly feels it was written just for you and whatever you are living? Is the smell of his fragrance on your clothes or on someone crossing the street right next you brings tears to your eyes ?
If you answered yes to at least one (or all) of this questions you should ask yourself something else: Do you want your ex back for the good reasons or for the bad ones?
The bad reasons could be: routine, bad habit, ego, your ex dumped you and you just can’t be the one to get dumped, you already told your entourage that you’ll be with your ex forever and now you are not able to keep this promise, and the list can go on and on. You must be truthful with yourself.
If after all this thinking you are still sure that you want to get back with your ex for only or mostly good reasons there are some things that you can do to reverse the situation.
Get Over Break Up
So you just had a break up and it seems like the world is coming to an end. It is not. A person is bound to have some unhealthy relationships in their lifetime. If you want to get your ex back, you MUST learn how to get over it first. If Here are some ways to make the pain disappear in no time at all.
The first few days are always very hard. You don’t want to get out of bed and surprisingly are never hungry anymore. Although it may seem impossible at the moment, but time is actually the best healer.
Get out of bed, and do the things you would normally do, like watching television or playing with your dog. Don’t ignore contact with other people. It is understandable that you do not want any sort of sympathy but talking about it with someone helps a lot and you’ll find yourself feeling relieved and relaxed. Venting out your feelings or catharsis is a good healer. Talk to your most trusted friend or write in your journal exactly how you are feeling.
You are responsible for your happiness. You need to remind yourself that you were happy before they came in to your life and it is possible again. If you cling to the memory too much, it will only make it harder for you. You can be happy again. You just need to do the things that you enjoy more than others. Go out with your friends or stay home and play your guitar. Anything that you know helps you calm down and at ease.
Try to get rid of all the reminders that you have of your partner. This does not mean that you burn his or her pictures or flush the watch they gifted you down the toilet. Give them back or store them in some place till you are confident that you are ready to look at them again without any hard feelings.
Delete their phone number from your list so you are able to avoid the urge to call them up and scream or cry at them over the phone. Have a clean break, if you think that you can still be best friends even after having a terrible break up, well, it is not going to be so. Don’t sit around waiting for them to come and sweep you off your feet again, go out and get on with your life. Yes, you do have a life without them.
Getting into a relationship as soon as you are out of one is the worst thing you can do. It will only end up hurting you and your new partner. So do not rebound. Do things that make you happy. Go out with your friends or spend some quality time with your family.
Help your mom in the kitchen and catch up with your dad. You’ll realize that there is more to life and you’ll start appreciating the life that you have been given. Watch your favorite movies and listen to your favorite songs. You need to know that you are capable of loving again. Don’t feel unworthy of love, the relationship was meant to end if it did, it’s not your fault. Sometimes these things happen and you can’t do anything about it. You need a keep a positive attitude towards life, greet every opportunity with welcoming hands and be thankful for what you have.
Letter To Get Ex Back
Before you sit down to put pen to paper think about why you want to write a letter and what you want to write about. A love letter to get ex back can be effective if well thought out and well planned. Every thing you plan on doing should have a goal in mind and here your goal is to get the ex back. Think about why you feel a letter would be better than a phone call.
Well, a phone call is just that, a call that means nothing and has no sincerely about it. You might just as well be talking to a machine. Alternatively, you can say more in a letter than you can on the phone and you can do it with more sincerity. You can pour your heart out in a letter where it is more impersonal than on the phone. And it means even less if you are turned over to the answering machine or the voice mail. What you say in a letter is much more believable than what you would say on the phone or to a voice mailbox.
Remember when you write a love letter you have time to choose your words carefully. Some things you also want to remember is that a little humility can go a long way. Let the other party feel that the break up is not their fault entirely. Take a portion of the blame too. After all, in reality, it takes two to have a fight or argument so taking some of the blame for the break up is not a self sacrifice on your part.
You can mention that relationships all have problems and that you have been stubborn and unseeing and are truly sorry for this. You may continue by mentioning that because of the strength of your love for each other you can and will overcome any obstacles.
That you are not saying either of you are wrong or right but that the arguments of the past should stay in the past and that from this day forward the only important thing in your lives will be your love for each other.
It will be more important than life itself because without one another there is no real life for either of you. Set aside a night specifically to be with one another and make it a beautiful time with wine, roses, peace and quiet and by all means, no arguments. This is the kind of letter to get ex back that you have to write to accomplish your goal.
These are meant to be samples of what you can write in a letter to get ex back. Dwell on some of the topics mentioned and see how they fit into your vocabulary and feelings. Be sure your letter sounds like something you would say and do not copy verbatim something that you might have read or seen above. This letter can settle it all very quickly.